The statistics of divorce

The statistics of divorce are not great.  44% of first marriages and 67% of second marriages end in divorce.  And the percentage for third marriages is even higher.  There’s no one who hasn’t experienced this painful transition of divorce either personally, or with friends and family.  Over my ten years of working with clients, we have worked through all of the different stages of this very difficult transition of divorce.  Pre-divorce, many clients start decluttering in anticipation of a sale or move.  Clutter isn’t just physical; it’s also emotional and psychological.  Clutter is anything that holds you down and holds you back from living your best life.  If you’re just beginning to think of making a dramatic change in your life, like starting a separation or divorce, you start with decluttering all the extra, unneeded things in your life.  In the midst of a divorce, stress is at its highest.  This exactly the right time to engage professionals who can support and guide you – personally, financially, emotionally – in whatever way you need.  From managing a move to figuring out finances to finding parenting support – there are professionals who can help.

Post-divorce – finding the treasure

Post-divorce, support is still critical.  The transition of divorce can be years in the making and supporting yourself and your family with help can make all the difference.  Rumi said, “Where there is ruin, there is hope for a treasure.”  What is the treasure that you want to find when this transition is over?  Do you want to create a space that is truly yours?  Do you seek to create a home that is less stressed, more peaceful, and affords you calm and contentment?  Are you looking to let go of the clutter – physical, emotional, and psychological -that has held you back from living your best life?  There are many professionals, like me, with experience working through the transition of divorce who can help.    Check out the resources available at VESTA to learn more.  The goal of VESTA to EDUCATE, CONNECT, and EMPOWER so that this transition can move as smoothly as possible.

The strongest thing we can do is ask for help when we need it.  Ask; we’re listening.